Comments for All Dressed Up

Comment on He’s got a lot to say by Shelly

Shelly — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 22:15:46 +0000

I think he’s talking to ME! Loving his chub cheeks!!

Comment on He’s got a lot to say by Mama Bub

Mama Bub — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 03:44:38 +0000

I think he’s saying, “Hannah, be my girlfriend!”

Love it.

Comment on He’s got a lot to say by donna

donna — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 02:44:33 +0000

Look how big he is!

Comment on Advice by Hobbychanger

Hobbychanger — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 21:56:27 +0000

Echoing Jana, I don’t have kids, but since I got married all my mom can do is pass on advice. (We aren’t even trying to have kids yet!) Here’s the common theme: Being a parent is kind of like being in a good marriage.

1)Love your kid even when you don’t like them at the moment
2) Sacrifice to make their lives better. My husband gives things up to make me happy and vice versa. It’s not big stuff, but he will occasionally do things he knows I hate to make me happy, and I do the same.
3)Don’t let them 100% entirely take over your life since you still need time to be you to keep you happy and sane.
4)Whatever works routine wise for your family, works. If other people tell you to do something a certain way and you think it will work better, try it. If it doesn’t, go back to your way of doing things. It’s your life, you and your family don’t have to do things like other people. We aren’t robots.

Those are the things I like to think I’ll take with me when we have children. Yes, there are things like how many birth cloths, which swaddler, bouncy seat, bottle, that everyone is willing to strongly give their opinion, but everyone’s kids are different. (I read a lot of mommy bloggers). But I’m willing to bet, the good parents follow the guidelines for a good marriage.

Oh, and as my aunt says: “Enjoy every moment, good and bad. In the blink of an eye, kids are grown and gone.”

Comment on Advice by Jana

Jana — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 17:45:59 +0000

Ha! Love what Sarah said – all of it so true!

I’ve been thinking about your question on and off for a few days and really, the only thing I can come up with is: do what feels right to you, makes you happy and the most important part – don’t feel guilty about it. Don’t feel guilty if you have to have a c-section, if breast feeding doesn’t work, if you use disposable diapers or choose sleeping arrangements that make others cringe. If it works for you and your family, do it and don’t apologize or feel guilty about it. A happy mom is more important to a baby than a vaginal birth or breast milk or cloth diapers or co-sleeping (or crib sleeping). I think moms judge themselves (and others) way too harshly for the choices they make. If you’re comfortable with your decision, go for it and apologize to no one.

Comment on Advice by Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:42:42 +0000

I would say, no matter how in sync you think you and your partner are in childrearing philosophies, DO NOT BE SURPRISED when you have wildly different ideas about certain aspects of parenting, things you possibly never even thought to discuss beforehand because how could it be an issue?! (Here I’m specifically thinking of frequency of bathing kids, because I think at least every other day in the summer is pretty mandatory, whereas my husband, as I have discovered since being on bedrest, thinks of bathing as some sort of effing LAST RESORT when wet wipes and napkins are no longer cutting it. MAKING ME NUTS.)
Also don’t be too shocked if when your husband is watching the kids, he manages only to WATCH THE KIDS, whereas you can do that while simultaneously getting chores and laundry done. Or if, say, five years into parenting, he still has to be reminded which drawer the kids’ socks are in. Most of this applies probably more to stay at home moms with full time job having husbands, but I kinda bet it’s a little bit true across the board.

Comment on One day, we’ll all look back and remember that THIS was the day it all went off the rails. by Artemisia

Artemisia — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 20:09:08 +0000

Check into the Well – too quickly going on or off it can cause siezures. Please talk to your doctor about this.

Also, it might be a good idea to see a therapist during this time. Help deal with the changes of going off meds, and maybe manage any lingering depression/anxiety.

Please talk to your doc, though.

Comment on Advice by Erica

Erica — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 18:24:43 +0000

Oh my, yes, Devan. I’m surprised I don’t weigh 500lbs with all the words I’ve eaten over the last 3.5 years.

Comment on Advice by Devan

Devan — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 18:19:37 +0000

Love the new look and comment page. I would add, “Never say never, unless you like to eat your words.”
I may know that one from experience…

Comment on Advice by Dr. Mom

Dr. Mom — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 15:59:11 +0000

My second baby spit up constantly, and the burp cloths were really not big or absorbent enough. We bought a pack of cloth diapers and used those as burp cloths instead.