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Against the grain
July 5th, 2010
Today, I forced my daughter to wear underpants.
I know that all the “experts” say not to rush potty training and to let your kid decide when they’re ready, but my kid doesn’t fit the mold. She’s completely able to use the potty. As a matter of fact, she’s done it quite a few times in the past. She likes the convenience of diapers and, frankly, she’s lazy. She also uses the whole potty training situation as a chance to exert control.
She’s at the top end of the weight limit for size 4 diapers, so I told her that she’s gotten too big for her diapers and that’s as big as they get. We’ve been talking for weeks about this and that she’s going to have to start using the potty and wearing her underpants.
So far this morning we have 100% success. And by that, I mean she was happy to wear her underpants and hasn’t had an accident yet. She also hasn’t gone to the bathroom, either, so take that with a grain of salt.
I guess this goes to show that the expert opinion is usually right for most kids, but sometimes you just have to do what you think is right for your kid.
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We’re forcing the issue a bit here too. He’s exactly like Maddie, in that he’s perfectly capable of going, just lazy. He does great at home but not so much when we’re out. He is going to preschool in September come hell or high water, so we have to make this work. Good luck to us both.
Just to prove the gods will smite you at the slightest sign of cockiness, I’ve had to throw away three pairs of underwear today. THREE.
I have truckloads of size 2/3 underwear that Sofie just outgrew. If you end up needing extra, I’m happy to send them up to you. But I’m hoping you don’t need them just the same.
You’re so right. To me that’s what parenting is all about. You can ask other people for advice, you can read all the books you want, but when it comes down to it you know your child and you just have to figure out what makes them tick.
That’s how I night trained Zachariah. I told him I was not buying any more pull-ups for bedtime. (He said he was interested, but he was still waking up wet.) I decided I was not going to fuss when he woke up wet. He was in charge of getting out of his wet jammies, putting them in a specified laundry basket for his wet things, and getting any wet blankets, sheets, and stuff off his bed, and pushing the basket to the laundry. I washed it without complaint over and over and over AND OVER. But you know, once he started staying dry he didn’t turn back. So it all worked out. It just took some patience and perseverance.
Potty training scares me. I would like to outsource it.
I outsourced potty training lol. I just couldn’t take the laziness and piss and poo “just ’cause” so he was sent off to school where they promised to have him trained in two weeks. Lo and behold, they did it. He was trained fully in about a week and a half. He was so effing lazy about it with me. He would sit on the potty for an hour if need be just to spite me for making him sit there, then as soon as he would pull up his undies, he’s pee or poo right then. That’s the worse power struggle I think i’ve ever had, and I’ve worked for 2 female employers lmao!
I agree with Mommy Daisy, have your little one do just like she had her child do…..she is responsible for taking off her wet things, putting them in the basket and bringing them to the washing machine. The kicker to all of this is being consistent and not giving in….and with a new baby it will be a beating at times. But if she can see you mean it, and you don’t give in, she WILL get it eventually. And even if that means she begs for a diaper, and she cries for two hours, and she has accidents, you walk away and don’t give the attention that she wants (even the negative.) This is what I had to do with my now 9 yr old, there were many a moment I had to shut a door to keep me away from him so that I didn’t say the wrong things or blow up, and walked away from him while he screamed. But he’s a great kiddo who was not scarred from it, and now knows I mean what I say because I didn’t back down then and don’t now! You can do this, we’re rooting for you!